Start with the basics, and get more granular as the conversation progresses. The key here is to really listen to her answers, you shouldn’t be reading from a script, and you can’t expect her to either.
1. How do you relax after a hard day of work?
This is a great conversation starter because it immediately invokes a pleasant mood. After all, who doesn't like talking about their post-work relaxation?
2. What’s the farthest you’ve ever been from home?
This conversation starter can lead to great conversations about traveling or the desire to see the world.
3. what’s the best thing that happened to you last week?
This is a positive conversation starter that lets them reminisce about recent good times.
4. If you had to cut off all communication with one of your close family members for five years, who would it be and why?
5. Can you share some of your best childhood memories with me?
6. What was the last crazy adventure you went on?
Want to know how much of a thrill-seeker she is? Ask this question.
The more adventurous she is, the more direct you can be in your conversation and the quicker you can escalate your relationship. On the flip side, if she’s more conservative.
7. Do you have any secret talents?
The more things you can learn about her that others don’t know, the closer she’ll feel to you.